The other day I was watching a movie, where the main character was a 28 years old TV producer. The first scenes showed her having the career that she wanted and living the life of her dreams, an adult woman with a successful career and social life.
Watching that scene, it hit me, that I'm about to be 30 years old, and that's not an age where the main character in whatever story has the twist of her life. It came to my head that idea, where you spend your 20s dreaming and planning for that perfect adult life: the ideal job, the ideal social status and the looks that you always wished to have. Then, you are in your 30s, where you might not achieve the ideal life that you wanted, but you are probably living a very similar life, but maybe you don't realize it or you may still running to something new that you forget to enjoy what you spent your 20s planning and working to have.
Having this idea, I remembered that I'm living what I was dreaming about five years ago, but somehow I'm still not satisfied and again running toward something that I don't even know what anymore.
I remember reading once about something that is called the stoping place, that while the gipsies usually spent their lives moving around, some of them have what they call a stopping place, which could be a place or a person. How to find your stopping place? Is life perfect once you do? I do not know, and I guess to know you have to live a whole life to be able to qualify to say this kind of advice.
How can we recognize a golden moment and capture it? Because we all know that there is no stopping place, even when you stop you probably be plagued by all the what-ifs and all the people who just can't stop wanting you to move on. There is always the notion that the grass is greener on the other side, and you might be blessed to be aware enough to realize that it's probably just a myth and be present in your time; however, life happens and we get tired, and the questions creep up to us.
It could be that, or it could be that you had too much expectation on that future life you planned, you dreamed too much about, and you imagine it just like a magic wand that will fix everything. Now, you are standing in the middle of that fake fairytale, asking why did it look greener from there?
I guess the general advice here is to hold on into the moment, is to capture your small victories and celebrate it with squashing it with your unreal expcetations. It is not easy I know, we live in times where everyone is competing, whether its work, study, lifestyle or relationships, you find your self in that race when you didn't even want to participate. Still, you found your self in the middle of the race, and everyone is running, and it looks like it is what you should do. Nobody, gave you any instructions or rules, nobody told you that you don't have to run, you could walk, in this lane or in whatever path you choose. Walking is fine, walking is better actually when you walk you see, you smell and enjoy the road, who cares when or where are you going? When arriving is not the goal anyway!